I just watched this video posted on Twitter by the awesome Spida Hunter of EHP Fitness about being a victim. It’s quite a long piece and Spida clearly shows his passion around this topic, so it comes across as a rant in a few places – but he’s taken a stand, and I acknowledge him for that.
It follows on from a news story in The Press about surgery being offered to morbidly obese people in Canterbury.
Kevin Williams is currently 250kg, although down from the once 350kg. His weight ballooned after “his marriage fell apart 20 years ago he turned to food for comfort” – 20 years ago. The article finishes with this “The huge costs involved in caring for him now could have been avoided if he had obesity surgery when he was first referred 15 years ago, he said. He believed he would still be working if he had had the operation, and many of his health problems would be gone.”
I’m with Spida on this one. We ALL have choices. Sometimes they’re hard ones. Sometimes they require persistance and dedication. Sometimes they need us to change our way of thinking. Sometimes they involve getting help from other people. And sometimes we need help and encouragement from other people to open our eyes up to the fact that we do in fact have a choice.
It’s the last part that often gets overlooked. Where were Kevin Williams’ friends and family 20 years ago when he started on the downhill spiral of out-of-control eating that lead to his obesity? Did any of them say to him “Hey dude, that bucket of KFC you’re having every night is not good for you. Maybe you need to get some help before it gets out of hand.”
I have no idea. Maybe someone did. Maybe Kevin chose to ignore that advice. I really don’t know what happened, that lead to him getting to 350kg….although to be fair he dropped 100kg to the current 250kg, which is in itself an achievement – but why did he stop?
We all have them.
And too many people spend their lives blaming other people, the economy, the government, their parents – anyone else they can – rather than take responsibility for the shit they’ve gotten themselves into and make the right choices to get them out of said shit.
I’m the first to admit I’ve tried to blame others for the situation I’m in at the moment. I won’t bore you with the details, but never-the-less, Spida’s post was a wake-up call for me too – I’m NOT a fucken victim. I made my choices, and I will continue to make choices to get my life back on track.
And I have good people around me who are looking out for me – and I’m putting my hand up to #justaskforhelp
We ALL have them. Even when we don’t think we do.